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In my life I have been accused by other women from all works of life for stealing their men....I have had to justify my words and actions to people who deserved no explanations and by bit I found myself losing who I was in trying to explain who I wasn't. I'd drop my head in shame when I walked in public and would hide behind those I knew wud stand by me....I'd constantly try to get people to understand me and not judge me. I don't owe anyone anything...I don't have to justify my actions to anyone and I shudn't lose who I am by trying to be what everyone expects me to be. Yes, I have had "their" men but that's just the problem.....women who call another woman's son "my" man are not only possesive but if they looked closely at themselves they'll see the little self-esteem they have. Lack of self-esteem is a turn off for any man....you can be everything and have everything but no confidence usually results in no love!!

I was minding my business...not needing anyone, content in my own space and he showed up. He saw in me a woman who didn't need to be loved....but who already had love so he wanted to add on to that. He saw in me a woman who wasn't looking for attention....but who already knew how to give herself attention and wanted to add on to that. He saw in me a woman who cud take care of herself emotionally, physically, financially and spiritually and he found himself immersed in my total completeness and he wanted to be part of it. You see, "your" man knew that he cudn't provide you with class, pride, self-respect and self-love....he didn't wanna supplement anything in your life but compliment it. You were 2 needy and 2 pushy.....you lost who you are trying to be who you thought he wanted you to be.

You forgot that you were complete without him....you forgot that you were special without him....you forgot that you didn't need him as much as you need yourself.....you forgot that there was life before him and there shud be life with him and after him. Your "man" found himself overwhelmed by your insecurities and neediness that he eventually escaped that exhausting environment.

So, YES I have had "your" man but I didn't steal him, he chose me and if he doesn't recognise my worth in the time that he is with me - I will no hold on to him.....I will gladly release him. That doesn't mean he's not a good man....it just means he's not good enough for me.
A woman must know and understand her worth!!!